For a while now, one characteristic of mine drives my mom crazy is that I tend to act like a leader. Some people would say that I like to be in control, but that’s not the case. I know what micro-managing is, and I have some family members that have bad habits related to micro-managing. I don’t micro-manage, I just don’t like things out from under my belt. Think of it like this. You have a ton of marbles, but they are all rolling away. That’s the worst feeling, because when you go to scoop up a marble, all the others keep rolling, farther and farther away.
My mom hates it when I act like a “mother” to my sister. I will admit, I can get pretty bossy around Mena, but that’s the only way she will listen to me. She’s learning swear words – fast. It also doesn’t help that I’m not allowed to fight back when she hits me – she’s 6 years younger than me. Basically, the only way I can get through her thick little forming skull, is by using my words. I talk to her like I am a mother, and my mom hates it because it causes my sister to go running to her, fake crying. (Oh yes, I sure can tell when she’s fake crying.)
Anyway, there have been several instances where I have talked to her in a “bossy” sister way. I just don’t see what else I should do? My two choices are to let her be a complete jerk to me, or try to do something about it. I choose to do something about it. I have tried to tell my mother about what happens and guess what? “You’re the big sister and I have responsibility,” is what she says. (Sometimes mom just tells me that she’s too busy to hear me complain.)
Here’s the other thing. I take Krav Maga, and so my sister has been watching me for 5 1/2 years and is getting better at throwing punches at my arms. (It really hurts man!) I think the most I can do is just avoid fights with her. We are getting older, and dad has been saying that when my sister starts taking Krav Maga too, I will be allowed to fight back.
So far Mena’s been OK but I just hope she doesn’t take that as a green light to use me as an outlet for her anger after this month. Because guess what? She’s starting Krav in May. And payback is…well, you know.