So, recently, my mom quit her job to become a free-lance writer. She get’s to spend more quality time with us. However, there are some downsides. The first is that mom follows through with punishments now. She used to kind of let things go. For instance, if I would talk back, she’d warn me about taking tech away, but it would never really happen. (I mean, this was convenient but at the same time not good for me.) The second thing, is now she’s more focused on what we’re doing. Well, that seems like it should be a good thing, but honestly, it’s hard to live with your mom breathing down your neck! (Ok, that’s a bit of an exaggeration.)
There are upsides to having her home more too. Like I said, she’s definitely more involved in our lives. We’ve been able to go places more. Our family has been able to spend more quality time together lately. It’s kind of cool and kind of not cool at the same time. One big hooray for me is that my mom can actually pick me up from school now. When she used to work full time, she got out at around 6:00 to 7:00 on the average weekday. Because of this, I had to go to a daycare at my old school until she or my dad could pick me up. It got old after about, uh… 7 years! Now I get picked up right after school, and I can do my homework in a quiet, safe environment. I think that this really helps my grades and stuff. It also helps me to be better with my mom and things like that. When my mom worked full time, we were less close, and now that she’s able to have bonding time with us, we’re building that relationship.
I’m not suggesting that parents out their all quit their jobs. I guess what I’m trying to say is, kids have love languages like adults. There’s a book my mom is reading. It’s the 5 love languages. My love language is quality time. Spending time with my loved one helps me build that trust and relationship. Honestly, it’s different for everyone, so learn what your kids’ love languages are, and build off of that. Trust me, you’ll see change. Especially when they notice how hard you’re trying.